yet another day of memories...
yet another day of memories...
Feel alil useless and un-needed
Especially last week when I was just watching Youtube
And doing nothing but slack..
But oh well..
Am going holiday already
So busy packing
And with the added slots at work
Plus tying up all loose ends
Heh, I feel alil frenzied but just in my element =)
Hope can sleep better when I go holiday..
Haven been sleeping well cuz yet to find job and all =(
May I have a blast of a time there!
6/20/2008 02:00:00 AM
Embrace those who are different from you
In this fortnightly column on life issues, veteran psychotherapist
Anthony Yeo talks about accepting differences in people
By Anthony Yeo
I watched Wilde, the movie portraying a part of Oscar Wilde's
lifestyle, and left feeling sad and discomfited.
The Wilde I had adored for his literary prowess and inimitable wit was
in his time admired for his unique literary style and talent. His
plays performed to sell-out audiences and were received with standing
ovations at a time when Victorian England was characterised by
reserved and restrained patrons of the arts.
Unfortunately he was condemned to hard labour in prison, dying a
pauper's death all because he was found guilty for having engaged in
same-sex relationships.
Wilde was 'loved for being unique, hated for being different',
suffering the ignominy of being criminalised because of his different
sexual orientation.
As I ponder over the treatment meted to Wilde, my mind and heart goes
out to the way the world treats those who are different even though
they are humans just like everyone else.
We tend to discriminate against those who do not match up to what is
considered normal. It is so difficult to accept people for who they
are, for the gifts and attributes that they bring to the world.
Then I wonder about the many in our world who feel stigmatised,
marginalised or ostracised all because of their status, station in
life or lifestyle preference.
They may not necessarily suffer the same fate as Wilde, but I am
familiar with many who prefer to remain closeted, keeping from people
the fact that they are HIV-Aids infected, inflicted with mental
illness, incapacitated by intellectual and physical disabilities or
have been to prison.
Even those who are divorced or widowed prefer to avoid disclosing
their status, afraid to be regarded as an oddity in life. Divorced or
widowed people feel stigmatised too.
Sometimes it is heart- wrenching to journey with such people in their
struggle for acceptance. Somehow they feel they do not belong to the
mainstream of life despite our declaration that we regard all to be equal.
I also observe that the family seems to be one major arena where
children experience the most rejection because of their differences.
Parents naturally prefer children who fit their image of what and how
a child should be. They wish their children would possess qualities
such as intellectual capability, good appearance and ability to
perform at school.
If the children do not measure up to expectations, they are often made
to feel useless, hopeless, inadequate, inferior or deficient.
They grow up feeling like they do not belong in the family because
they are not like their siblings or have failed to live up to their
parents' expectations.
All too often they end up as adults with a poor sense of self-worth,
feeling rejected and discriminated against.
Yet children never asked to be born and must surely have the inherent
right to be accepted for who they are. This goes for all others who
may be like Oscar Wilde.
If only we can acknowledge that no matter how different people may be
from the rest of us, we must embrace them as people just like us.
6/11/2008 02:25:00 AM
Dreams
To be out and open
Independence
To be totally Christ-like
I believe that:
Courage is not an absence of fear
but the willingness to face up to the circumstances in spite of the fear.
Desires
A Pair of Pretty Sandals!
CPA! Achieved!
Investment Guru
dislikes
creepy crawly "things"
Unnecessary politics
Goals
get driving license
start my own business
to create my own hedge fund
older memories
my past journey